““Neither is the goal to change a particular behavior. Our concern isn’t with “how to put my child to sleep” or “how to get my child to eat.” The principal task is to put spiritual foundations under both our child’s life and our own. This triggers a shift in the elemental way in which we relate to our children, with the result that their behavior automatically falls in line as they become aware of, and true to, who they really are. Behavioral changes are an outgrowth of a shift in the relationship.””