Habits Quote by Robert A. Glover
““Breaking Free Activity #15 It can be difficult to make a direct link between your caretaking behavior and the emotional pukes which inevitably follow. Observe the ways you hurt the people you love. •Do you make cutting remarks or hurtful "jokes"? •Do you embarrass them in public? •Are you frequently late? •Do you "forget" things they've asked you to do? •Do you criticize them? •Do you withdraw from them or threaten to leave? •Do you let frustration build until you blow up at them? Ask the significant others in your life to give you feedback about your caretaking and emotional pukes. This information may be hard to hear and may trigger a shame attack, but it is important information for breaking out of the victim triangle.””
About This Quote
Source Book: No More Mr. Nice Guy, 2000
The passage urges self‑awareness of harmful caretaking habits and seeking honest feedback to break victim patterns.
In simple terms: Identify harmful habits and seek feedback to change.
Key Takeaway
Take responsibility for your actions.
Themes
self‑awareness
relationships
feedback
victim triangle
growth
Mood
empathetic
motivational
Type
self‑help
reflective
When to use this quote
- personal relationships
- family dynamics
- therapy sessions
- self‑help groups
Key Concepts
Behavioral change
emotional intelligence
Questions to Reflect On
- Are you willing to hear uncomfortable truths?
- How will you act on feedback?
A Different Perspective
Changing habits can be painful and may trigger shame.
