Anger Quote by Pema Chodron

“If you aren't feeding the fire of anger or the fire of craving by talking to yourself, then the fire doesn't have anything to feed on.” quote by Pema Chodron — Download Open image

“If you aren't feeding the fire of anger or the fire of craving by talking to yourself, then the fire doesn't have anything to feed on.”

Pema Chodron

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Source Book: The Wisdom of No Escape, Pema Chodron, 2009

Self‑talk can fuel anger or craving; without it, those emotions lose power.

In simple terms: Talking to yourself fuels negative emotions.

Key Takeaway

Watch your inner dialogue.

Themes

mindfulness emotion regulation self‑awareness

Mood

calm reflective

Type

advice philosophical

When to use this quote

stressful work
relationship conflict
personal meditation

Key Concepts

Buddhism psychology

Questions to Reflect On

How does inner dialogue affect your emotions?
Can you notice when you feed anger?

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