Bargaining Quote by Paul Mason
““bargaining This stage is characterized by the non-BP making concessions in order to bring back the “normal” behavior of the person they love. The thinking goes, “If I do what this person wants, I will get what I need in this relationship.” We all make compromises in relationships. But the sacrifices that people make to satisfy the borderlines they care about can be very costly. And the concessions may never be enough. Before long, more proof of love is needed and another bargain must be struck. depression Depression sets in when non-BPs realize the true cost of the bargains they’ve made: loss of friends, family, self-respect, and hobbies. The person with BPD hasn’t changed. But the non-BP has.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Drama of the Gifted Child, 1995
People in relationships often give too much to keep love, leading to loss of self and wellbeing.
In simple terms: Giving too much hurts self.
Key Takeaway
Set healthy boundaries.
Themes
relationships
self‑care
boundaries
codependency
mental health
Mood
reflective
cautious
Type
advice
psychological
When to use this quote
- romantic partnership
- friendship
- family dynamics
Key Concepts
BPD
codependency
self‑sacrifice
Practical Applications
- setting limits
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you recognize when a compromise is harmful?
- What steps protect your self‑respect?
A Different Perspective
Boundaries may be ignored, causing resentment.
