“Gwen, a woman with BPD, talks about her inability to decipher the world around her. “On the day I was born, all… — Valerie Porr M.A Book Copy Share Image
“People with BPD spend a great deal of their emotional energy worrying about past pain or potential future problems. “If I do… — Valerie Porr M.A Dwelling on the past Copy Share Image
“they may pontificate that the suicide attempt was merely a ploy to gain attention or to manipulate others. No matter what may… — Valerie Porr M.A Family Copy Share Image
“It is not necessary to get into a fight with someone because you feel angry; aggressive behavior does not have to be… — Valerie Porr M.A Habits Copy Share Image
“This painful mental illness is not fair, but saying it is not fair does not change anything. Thinking that you should not… — Valerie Porr M.A Day life Copy Share Image
“If you want to pull someone out of a deep hole, do you jump in after her? Now that you are in… — Valerie Porr M.A Fitness Copy Share Image
“Willingness is giving up trying to control behaviors or outcomes. By giving up control you can do what is needed in any… — Valerie Porr M.A Giving up control Copy Share Image
“It is very difficult to go through life when your core belief about yourself is that you are incompetent and do not… — Valerie Porr M.A Faith Copy Share Image
“Radical acceptance requires being open to fully experiencing your own life, as it is, without wishing it were not so and without… — Valerie Porr M.A Acceptance Copy Share Image
“People with BPD tend to judge themselves and others in extreme ways. They will often use excessively positive terms, idealizing or glorifying,… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“Western culture does not encourage validating someone’s emotional responses, as emotional awareness of daily interactions is counterintuitive to how we normally react.… — Valerie Porr M.A Western culture Copy Share Image
“Think of your loved one as living in a different culture. Get to know his culture, learn to speak his language. Because… — Valerie Porr M.A Habits Copy Share Image
“People with BPD judge themselves harshly all the time and find judgments lurking around the corner of every raised eyebrow, sneeze, yawn,… — Valerie Porr M.A Around the corner Copy Share Image
“Tips for Being Mindful • Focus on what works • Keep an eye on your goals and values • Give up opinions… — Valerie Porr M.A Focus Copy Share Image
“the ability to cope effectively with daily problems and responses does not depend on willpower. Solving problems and tolerating distress requires skill… — Valerie Porr M.A Discipline Copy Share Image
“The tiny bud the parents nurtured does not seem to have bloomed into the magnificent flower they expected. Parents feel as if… — Valerie Porr M.A Gardening Copy Share Image
“Not knowing how to regulate their own painful, aversive feelings, such as shame and anger, makes people with BPD walking powder kegs.… — Valerie Porr M.A Binge eating Copy Share Image
“People with BPD are usually burdened with strong feelings of worthlessness and shame that are not necessarily supported by the facts of… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“You will become effective only when your loved one can trust you. For years, your loved one with BPD has felt emotionally… — Valerie Porr M.A Slow Process Copy Share Image
