Hard Quote by Nat Hentoff
![“I knew A.J. Muste very well. I tried for a while to be like he was, and that is a total pacifist. But then Margot [my wife] hit me hard in the stomach one day to prove to me that I wasn't as perfect a pacifist as I thought I was.” quote by Nat Hentoff](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/0f7/nat-hentoff-1615_hard_i-knew-a-j-muste-very-well-i-tried-for-a_782398.jpg)
“I knew A.J. Muste very well. I tried for a while to be like he was, and that is a total pacifist. But then Margot [my wife] hit me hard in the stomach one day to prove to me that I wasn't as perfect a pacifist as I thought I was.”
About This Quote
Source Interview: Oral history, 1975
Attempting perfect pacifism is challenged by personal pain, revealing the difficulty of maintaining absolute nonviolence.
In simple terms: Perfect pacifism is hard when hurt.
Key Takeaway
Accept imperfection in ideals.
Themes
pacifism
humanity
conflict
personal growth
idealism
Mood
introspective
serious
Type
ethical
personal
When to use this quote
- peace activism
- conflict resolution training
- personal reflection on trauma
- ethical decision making
Key Concepts
Moral philosophy
psychology of violence
Questions to Reflect On
- Can one remain nonviolent when faced with aggression?
- What compromises are acceptable in pacifist practice?
A Different Perspective
Violence may be unavoidable in self-defense or protecting others.
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