Asking Quote by Marshall B. Rosenberg
“This objective of getting what we want from other people-or getting them to do what we want them to do-threatens the autonomy of people, their right to choose what they want to do. And whenever people feel that they're not free to choose what they want to do, they are likely to resist, even if they see the purpose in what we are asking and would ordinarily want to do it.”
About This Quote
Source Book: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg, 1999
Attempting to control others undermines their autonomy, leading to resistance even when goals align.
In simple terms: Control breeds resistance.
Key Takeaway
Respect autonomy to foster cooperation.
Themes
autonomy
control
resistance
communication
Mood
empathetic
strategic
Type
ethical
communication
When to use this quote
- team leadership
- negotiation
- education
- parenting
Key Concepts
psychology
ethics
influence
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you ask for cooperation without imposing?
- What alternatives respect others' choices?
A Different Perspective
People may still resist if they sense manipulation.
