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Communication Quote by Jeanette Winterson

“Lovers are not at their best when it matters. Mouths dry up, palms sweat, conversation flags and all the time the heart is threatening to fly from the body once and for all. Lovers have been known to have heart attacks. Lovers drink too much from nervousness and cannot perform. They eat too little…” quote by Jeanette Winterson
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““Lovers are not at their best when it matters. Mouths dry up, palms sweat, conversation flags and all the time the heart is threatening to fly from the body once and for all. Lovers have been known to have heart attacks. Lovers drink too much from nervousness and cannot perform. They eat too little and faint during their fervently wished consummation. They do not stroke the favoured cat and their face-paint comes loose. This is not all. Whatever you have set store by, your dress, your dinner, your poetry, will go wrong. How is it that one day life is orderly and you are content, a little cynical perhaps, but on the whole just so, and then without warning you find the solid floor is a trapdoor and you are now in another place whose geography is uncertain and whose customs are strange? Travellers at least have a choice. Those who set sail know that things will not be the same as at home. Explorers are prepared. But for us, who travel along the blood vessels, who come to the cities of the interior by chance, there is no preparation. We who were fluent find life is a foreign language. Somewhere between the swamp and the mountains. Somewhere between fear and sex. Somewhere between God and the Devil passion is and the way there is sudden and the way back is worse.””

Jeanette Winterson

About This Quote

Source Novel: Art and Lies, 1991

Romantic expectations clash with physical reality, creating anxiety and chaos

In simple terms: Love can be chaotic and unsettling

Key Takeaway

Accept vulnerability and uncertainty in love

Themes

relationships psychology existentialism

Mood

melancholic introspective

Type

literary philosophical

When to use this quote

  • first dates
  • weddings
  • intimate moments

Key Concepts

intimacy performance anxiety cultural dislocation

Questions to Reflect On

  • How do you manage expectations in intimacy?
  • What helps navigate love’s uncertainties?
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