Compassion Quote by Jane Austen
““I cannot express my own abhorrence of myself. Whenever I looked towards the past, I saw some duty neglected, or some failing indulged. Every body seemed injured by me. The kindness, the unceasing kindness of Mrs. Jennings, I had repaid with ungrateful contempt. To the Middletons, to the Palmers, the Steeles, to every common acquaintance even, I had been insolent and unjust; with a heart hardened against their merits, and a temper irritated by their very attention. To John, to Fanny, — yes, even to them, little as they deserve, I had given less than their due. But you, you above all, above my mother, had been wronged by me. I, and only I, knew your heart and its sorrows; yet to what did it influence me? Not to any compassion that could benefit you or myself. Your example was before me; but to what avail? Was I more considerate of you and your comfort? Did I imitate your forbearance, or lessen your restraints, by taking any part in those offices of general complaisance or particular gratitude which you had hitherto been left to discharge alone?””
About This Quote
Source Novel: “Emma”, 1815, Chapter 45
Self‑reflection reveals personal failings and the impact on others, urging moral improvement.
In simple terms: Looking inward shows how we hurt others.
Practice humility and amend past wrongs.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- conflict resolution
- relationship repair
- personal journaling
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- What steps will you take to make amends?
- How can you turn guilt into constructive change?
Self‑critique can lead to paralysis if not balanced.