Reason and emotion Quote by Henry Cloud
““We need to use both reason and emotion in our choosing of people. We get into danger when we ignore our reason, when we find our hearts are attracted to people that our heads “know better” than to choose. At those times, we find ourselves picking people who cannot satisfy our needs and whose character does not measure up to our essential values. Our hearts become disconnected from our values and in conflict with our true needs. Because our hearts have been programmed to seek some sort of sickness inside, we find relationships that match the sickness inside our hearts.””
About This Quote
Source Book: “Boundaries in Marriage,” 2005
Warns against ignoring reason in favor of emotion when choosing partners, leading to mismatched relationships.
In simple terms: Balance reason and emotion in relationships.
Key Takeaway
Seek partners aligned with values.
Themes
relationships
reason
emotion
Mood
thoughtful
cautious
Type
advice
psychology
When to use this quote
- dating
- marriage counseling
- friendship building
Key Concepts
psychology
values alignment
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you assess partner values?
- When should reason dominate emotion?
A Different Perspective
Pure emotion can cause poor choices.
