Freedom of choice Quote by Franklin Veaux
““Some poly lesbians find it especially difficult to come out in their communities, because lesbian couples have fought so hard to gain social recognition that they are wary of anything that seems to risk undermining that recognition. The small size of such communities can make it difficult for some gays and lesbians to have the same freedom of choice and expectations of privacy that cisgender, heterosexual people enjoy. ("Anyone can know except my softball team!" is something we've heard more than once—really!—and on opposite sides of North America.) We've also heard from trans people who have been told that polyamory "de-legitimizes" them by preventing them from finding "true" intimacy. Franklin has heard people say polyamory is something that trans people settle for when they can't find "real" relationships of their own.””
About This Quote
Polyamory can face stigma from both LGBTQ+ and broader societies, complicating identity and acceptance
In simple terms: Polyamory faces extra challenges within LGBTQ+ communities
Key Takeaway
Recognize and respect diverse relationship choices
Themes
identity
stigma
community
sexuality
Mood
empathetic
critical
Type
social commentary
advocacy
When to use this quote
- coming out
- community support
- education
- advocacy
Key Concepts
polyamory
LGBTQ+ rights
social recognition
Questions to Reflect On
- How can communities balance protecting rights and embracing new identities?
- What support helps polyamorous individuals feel safe?
A Different Perspective
Opposition may arise from fear of losing hard‑won rights
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