Change Quote by Franklin Veaux
““Polyamory can feel threatening because it upsets our fairy-tale assumption that the right partner will keep us safe from change. Polyamory introduces the prospect of chaos and uncertainty into what's supposed to be a straightforward progression to bliss. But a healthy relationship must first of all be resilient, able to respond to the changes and complexity life brings. Nor is happiness actually a state of being. It is a process, a side effect of doing other things. The fairy tale tells us that with the right partner, happiness just happens. But happiness is something we re-create every day. And it comes more from our outlook than from the things around us.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy, 1997
Polyamory challenges the myth that a single partner guarantees safety and happiness, urging resilience and continual personal effort to create joy.
In simple terms: Polyamory needs resilience and daily effort for happiness.
Key Takeaway
Build resilient, adaptable relationships.
Themes
relationships
resilience
happiness
polyamory
personal growth
Mood
reflective
hopeful
Type
philosophical
advice
When to use this quote
- dating
- long‑term partnership
- conflict resolution
- personal development
Key Concepts
attachment theory
emotional intelligence
systems thinking
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you cultivate resilience in relationships?
- What daily practices support your happiness?
A Different Perspective
Happiness also depends on internal mindset, not just relationship structure.
