Tristan Taormino

“The truth is, many people do not consciously choose monogamy; society chooses it for them, and it becomes the default.”

— Tristan Taormino

“[I}t is more common that people are monogamous not by choice, but by default.”

— Tristan Taormino

“You are the evil scientist of your desires. - Ignacio Rivera”

— Tristan Taormino

“Open relationships can give you the freedom to create unique relationships, explore yourself and your sexuality, and challenge society's expectations.”

— Tristan Taormino

“Eli likes to explore with other people different kinds of sex that his partner doesn't enjoy; he says, 'It enables me to…

— Tristan Taormino

“I think we are doing poor sex education if we don't look at how erotic behavior actually takes place, and offer people…

— Tristan Taormino

“Hotel-Room Coffee Tables I’ll admit to this one. They’re just not as sturdy as they look. It’s really hard to find wood…

— Tristan Taormino

“Nonmonogamous folks recognize that during a lifetime you can and will be attracted to other people even if you are in a…

— Tristan Taormino

“You can't plan for everything: obstacles will still come up that you never talked about-that it never even occurred to you to…

— Tristan Taormino

“That's what's so ironic about the conservative backlash against BDSMers. With increased visibility comes increased bigotry, and conservatives continue to rally against…

— Tristan Taormino

“This is the myth of finding "the One": the one partner you're "meant" to be with, your soul mate, your Prince Charming,…

— Tristan Taormino

“It is a relationship that is flexible enough to allow for change and that is constantly being renegotiated in the light of…

— Tristan Taormino

“It would be unwise to agree to nonmonogamy for the following reasons or with these hidden motives: • You’re so in love…

— Tristan Taormino

“EXERCISE Creating Authentic Relationships The questions below deal with issues most people take for granted and let society define for them. You…

— Tristan Taormino

“Sex-positive feminism embraces the entire range of human sexuality and is based on the idea that sexual freedom is an essential component…

— Tristan Taormino

“Honestly, everyone loves more than one person and people often lie about that. We’re just not lying about it’…”

— Tristan Taormino

“Nonmonogamous folks are constantly engaged in their relationships: they negotiate and establish boundaries, respect them, test them, and, yes, even violate them.…

— Tristan Taormino

“Open marriage thus can be defined as a relationship in which the partners are committed to their own and to each other's…

— Tristan Taormino

“Another [interviewee] told me that because her relationships aren't built on false ideas about exclusivity forever, she feels more cherished by her…

— Tristan Taormino

“People in open relationships enjoy exploring different dynamics with different people-sexual, emotional, psychological, and spiritual. Non-monogamy gives them the opportunity to create…

— Tristan Taormino

“Fear triggers the fight-or-flight response, fueled by adrenaline, which, as it turns out, is chemically related to amphetamines. Granted, it's a very…

— Tristan Taormino

“One study showed that an individual in an open relationship tends to be "individualistic, an academic achiever, creative, nonconforming, stimulated by complexity…

— Tristan Taormino