Causing trouble Quote by Douglas Stone
““Depending on how we handle them, feelings can lead to great trouble. But the feelings themselves just are. In that sense, feelings are like arms or legs. If you hit or kick someone, then your arms or legs are causing trouble. But there’s nothing inherently wrong with arms or legs. The same with feelings.””
About This Quote
Source Interview: The Art of Negotiation, 2015
Feelings are neutral tools; misuse causes trouble, but they are not inherently bad.
In simple terms: Feelings are like limbs—useful but can cause harm.
Key Takeaway
Use feelings responsibly, not as excuses.
Themes
emotion
responsibility
behavior
Mood
reflective
balanced
Type
practical
insightful
When to use this quote
- conflict resolution
- personal relationships
- team management
Key Concepts
ethics
psychology
Questions to Reflect On
- When have feelings caused unintended harm?
- How can you harness feelings constructively?
A Different Perspective
Feelings are hard to control and may be misinterpreted.
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