““You will get thru it because you have no choice, really . . . it just happens . . . no matter what you may feel now. There’s something built-in that enables most human beings . . . not all, to be sure . . . but most, to get thru this . . . like feeling very tense and tight and getting into a hot tub and finding there is no way not to be relaxed in the hot water because the water does wonderful physiological stuff to you and emotionally too that you cannot avoid. It is built-in to enable us to get thru, to enable us, force us, to survive, to stay alive. The question then becomes, after you’ve understood that it will be different, less raw, that the death can not be undone, that you will continue to live and that you will return, a different person, to the life other people define as “normal”: “What shall I do with the rest of my life?” 1. the situation is real and will remain so. 2. there’s nothing you can do about it, nothing at all. 3. now what happens to you? 4. who do you want to be? As””
