Communication Quote by David Foster Wallace
““Do you suppose it's so much easier to make conversation with someone you already know well than with someone you don't know at all primarily because of all the previously exchanged information and shared experiences between two people who know each other well, or because maybe it's only with people we already know well and know know us well that we don't go through the awkward mental process of subjecting everything we think of saying or bringing up as a topic of light conversation to a self-conscious critical analysis and evaluation that manages to make anything we think of proposing to say the other person seem dull or stupid or banal or on the other hand maybe overly intimate or tension-producing?””
About This Quote
Source Essay: Infinite Jest, 1996
Conversation feels easier with familiar people because shared history reduces self‑censorship and anxiety.
In simple terms: Knowing each other eases talk.
Key Takeaway
Leverage shared experiences to reduce social anxiety.
Themes
communication
comfort
self‑censorship
social anxiety
intimacy
Mood
anxious
hopeful
reflective
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- networking events
- first dates
- team meetings
- therapy sessions
Key Concepts
psychology
relationship dynamics
social cognition
Questions to Reflect On
- How does familiarity shape what you choose to share?
- What strategies can you use to feel comfortable with strangers?
A Different Perspective
It may also limit depth if reliance on familiarity prevents new perspectives.
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