Big deal Quote by Dave Ramsey
““Being real takes tremendous courage. We like approval, and we like respect, and to say otherwise is another form of denial. To wish for the admiration of others is normal. The problem is that this admiration can become a drug. Many of you are addicted to this drug, and the destruction to your wealth and financial well-being caused by your addiction is huge. Radical change in the quest for approval, which has involved purchasing stuff with money we don’t have, is required for a money breakthrough. Sara’s breakthrough came with family. Her family was upper-middle-crust and had always given Christmas gifts to every member. With twenty nieces and nephews and six sets of adults to buy for, just on her side, the budget was ridiculous. Sara’s announcement at Thanksgiving that this year Christmas giving was going to be done with the drawing of names, because she and Bob couldn’t afford it, was earth-shattering. Some of you are grinning as if this is no big deal. It was a huge deal in Sara’s family! Gift giving was a tradition! Her mother and two of her sisters-in-law were furious. Very little thanks were given that Thanksgiving, but Sara stood her ground and said, “No more.” Sara””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey, 2003
Seeking approval can drive reckless spending; breaking that habit requires redefining self‑worth beyond material gifts.
In simple terms: Approval drives overspending; change mindset.
Redefine worth, set realistic gift budgets.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- holiday budgeting
- family discussions
- financial counseling
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How will you handle family pushback?
- What non‑material ways can you show appreciation?
Changing traditions can cause conflict and resentment.