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Courage Quote by Christian G. Appy

“It was the senior stew's position to be at the top of the ramp when the men got off in Vietnam. But when we were about two hours out she would usually ask for a volunteer to take the forward door. All you had to do is stand at the door and say good-bye, but nobody wanted that job. It's nothing…” quote by Christian G. Appy
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““It was the senior stew's position to be at the top of the ramp when the men got off in Vietnam. But when we were about two hours out she would usually ask for a volunteer to take the forward door. All you had to do is stand at the door and say good-bye, but nobody wanted that job. It's nothing disparaging about the other gals, but many just couldn't do it. I'd always take the forward door and I was good at it. I never said "good-bye" or "good luck." I would shake their hand, look them in the eye, smile and say, "See you later." Sometimes I'd say, "See you in twelve months." They really wanted somebody to look at them. At the top of the ramp was the world, at the bottom of the ramp was the war. I saw eyes full of fear, some with real terror. And maybe this sounds crazy, but I saw death in some of those eyes. At that moment, at the top of the ramp, I was their wife, their sister, their girlfriend, and for those troops who had no one else -- and there were many -- I was their mother. That was the most important thing I´ve ever done. I can't imagine doing anything more important than to nudge a troop into war. If he wasn't lucky, I was nudging him to his death with the best "It will be okay" smile I could conjure up. I don't think there was one of us who did not want to keep them on the plane. That's why some of the girls were back in the bathroom crying. They couldn't stand to watch them leave. We were very aware we were sending them to war and that some would never come back. Therein lies the guilt. [ Helen Tennant Hegelheimer, World Airways flight attendant accompanying American troops to Vietnam, 1966-67. ]””

Christian G. Appy

About This Quote

Source Interview: Helen Tennant Hegelheimer, World Airways flight attendant, Vietnam 1966-67

The narrator describes taking emotional responsibility for troops, offering comfort and connection amid war, highlighting compassion and guilt.

In simple terms: Providing comfort to soldiers in war.

Key Takeaway

Offer empathy and presence to those in crisis.

Themes

compassion war service guilt empathy responsibility

Mood

sorrowful reflective

Type

narrative testimonial

When to use this quote

  • military departures
  • hospital visits
  • counseling sessions
  • family reunions
  • support groups

Key Concepts

psychology military history ethical duty human connection trauma care

Questions to Reflect On

  • How do you balance personal well‑being with caring for others?
  • What boundaries help sustain compassion?
A Different Perspective

Such emotional labor can cause deep personal guilt.

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