Coming out of the closet Quote by Charles Benedict
““Two of my closest seminary friends broke all contact with me after I told them I was leaving priesthood and coming out of the closet. I’ll never know if they felt betrayed because I lied to them about being straight or if they truly believed the words they told me: “You’re not a priest anymore, so we have nothing in common.” So much for the kindness, mercy, and compassion of God.””
About This Quote
Source Interview: Podcast “The Gay Catholic” episode, 2021
Leaving a vocation can strain friendships, especially when honesty about identity is lacking, leading to perceived betrayal and loss of shared purpose.
In simple terms: Leaving a job can break friendships if you hide who you are.
Key Takeaway
Be honest about identity to preserve true connections.
Themes
identity
friendship
faith
betrayal
Mood
sad
reflective
Type
personal
confessional
When to use this quote
- coming out
- leaving clergy
- rebuilding relationships
- seeking support
Key Concepts
self‑acceptance
religious vocation
social stigma
Questions to Reflect On
- How does honesty affect friendships when leaving a religious role?
- What support can help maintain bonds after such a change?
A Different Perspective
Friends may distance themselves regardless of honesty, fearing loss of shared identity.
