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Coming out Quote by Anthony Venn-Brown

“Sometimes people tell me they don’t want to label themselves by their sexual orientation. I used to reject my gay identity. In fact I did everything to try and annihilate it. The last thing I would ever do would be to say… “I’m gay”. Taking ownership of that was a terrifying thought and I believed…” quote by Anthony Venn-Brown
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““Sometimes people tell me they don’t want to label themselves by their sexual orientation. I used to reject my gay identity. In fact I did everything to try and annihilate it. The last thing I would ever do would be to say… “I’m gay”. Taking ownership of that was a terrifying thought and I believed it had tragic long-term as well as eternal consequences. The closest I ever got to acknowledging my true orientation was admitting I had “a homosexual problem”. Accepting who I was, was a loooong journey. And once I’d accepted then learning to embrace and celebrate being gay. We have multi identities. We can have different identities in different contexts. In some contexts some identities are paramount and others irrelevant. The highly self-aware person is conscious of the various identities but manages them wisely, recognizing each one is a part of the whole. Personally, I’m proud to be a homosexual. No more shame, denial or secrecy. The shame has been washed away by self-acceptance and self-hatred replaced with self-love. I am gay. Always have been gay. Always will be.””

Anthony Venn-Brown

About This Quote

Source Memoir: My Life in Faith, 2015

Accepting one's sexual identity is a painful, lengthy process that ends in self‑love and pride when embraced fully.

In simple terms: Self‑acceptance leads to pride.

Key Takeaway

Embrace identity, reject shame.

Themes

identity self‑acceptance pride

Mood

hopeful empowering

Type

personal inspirational

When to use this quote

  • counseling
  • L groups
  • personal storytelling

Key Concepts

sexual orientation personal growth multifaceted identity

Questions to Reflect On

  • How does identity affect other life areas?
  • What supports self‑acceptance?
A Different Perspective

Shame can impede personal development.

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