Jennifer Finney Boylan

“Straight women love a feminine sensibility in a man, but that love only goes up to, and unfortunately does not quite pass,…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“...a memoir is meant to be an impression of life, and not a photograph.”

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

What transsexuality emphatically is not is a 'lifestyle,' any more than being male or female is a lifestyle. Gender is many things,…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“I did love her, though, for a little while anyhow. That was the thing: I still believed, on some fundamental level, that…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“There are times when I think it's impossible to know another soul. I don't know, maybe we're lucky that way. If we…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“As it turns out, we're all still learning to be men, or women, all still learning to be ourselves. pg 197”

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“Although my understanding of exactly how much trouble I was in grew more specific over time, as a child I surely understood…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“The women I knew in those days liked the fact that I had a feminine streak, that I seemed to be sensitive…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“Is there anything more fundamentally human than the desire to live in another world, as someone other than our own earthbound selves?”

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“Most of the time I just have to resign myself to the fact that this whole business is beyond comprehension for most…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“It's funny how you can know a person, think of him as your closest friend, and still never gain access to the…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“I wondered ...if meeting people with creativity and passion when you were at an impressionable enough age actually kind of ruined you…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“I think it's very human, the hope that an all-encompassing love will change us into someone else, someone better. That this hope…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“Which is to say that we all have dragons to slay in life. This one is mine. I hope that doing so…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“But surely the idea that one might slip away unseen and take up another life is nearly universal. Is there anything more…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“I have a different theory, which is even more harebrained. It goes like this: Maybe we should all just love one another,…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“Maybe we should just love one another, even if we don't completely understand the things that people bear in their dark, strange…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

I feel like somebody who just got out of prison after 40 years for something she didn't do, like I got pardoned…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“...I really did "choose" to be Jim every single day, but that once I put my sword down I haven't chosen Jenny…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

At its heart, the quest that trans people are on is to have the same thing that straight — and gay —…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“Monster a person though monster not human. Monster like music. Like Beatles! Like Schumann! World full of stupid. World full of noise.…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“that Victoria’s wife has said that she will phone the police if Victoria ever so much as even mentions this topic again.”

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“Maybe . . . it's easier to have enemies than not to have them. . . . If you don't hate people,…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“You carry the past with you. Even if there's a before, and an after, in your life. It's still the same life.…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan

“How much could the person you love change, and still remain the same person to whom you'd made your promise? We don't…

— Jennifer Finney Boylan