Asks Quote by C. S. Lewis
“Love...is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriages) the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other; as you love yourself even when you do not like yourself.”
About This Quote
Source Book: The Four Loves by C. S. Lewis, 1960
Love is a conscious, willful unity sustained by habit and divine grace, allowing affection even when personal feelings falter.
In simple terms: Love is a deliberate, habit‑formed unity.
Key Takeaway
Cultivate love through intentional habit and grace.
Themes
relationships
spirituality
self‑acceptance
commitment
Mood
reflective
hopeful
Type
philosophical
inspirational
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- personal growth
- conflict resolution
- spiritual practice
Key Concepts
willful unity
habit formation
grace
self‑love
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you turn love into a habit?
- What role does grace play in sustaining love?
A Different Perspective
Love may wane without ongoing effort and mutual grace.
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