Anger Quote by Bernie Siegel
“Bobby and I were married in 1954 and by now we know that anger does not mean "I don't love you" or "I want a divorce." It means, "I am wounded and in need of love, and I feel safe telling you about it because you are my family." Sometimes our behavior with each other is no different from the cry of an unattended baby.”
About This Quote
Source Interview: Personal Narrative on Marriage, 2020
Anger signals vulnerability and a need for love, not rejection.
In simple terms: Anger shows hurt and desire for care.
Key Takeaway
Respond with empathy, not judgment.
Themes
relationships
emotion
communication
Mood
reflective
compassionate
Type
advice
relationship
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- family conflict
- parenting
- friendship
Key Concepts
attachment theory
emotional intelligence
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you recognize the love behind someone's anger?
- What steps help you safely express vulnerability?
A Different Perspective
Anger can also stem from power struggles, not just hurt.
![“Where there are kashays (anger-pride-deceit-greed), there is worldly life. As long as anger-pride-deceit-greed exist; one is a sansaari [living a worldly life] regardless of whether one is an ascetic or a family man. And where anger-pride-deceit-greed are absent, one is regarded as being asansaari…” quote by Dada Bhagwan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/7ec/dada-bhagwan-31_anger_where-there-are-kashays-anger-pride-dece_5756.jpg)