“Because loners are born everywhere, we end up living everywhere. We do not, have not, tended to single ourselves out as special,… — Anneli Rufus Environment Copy Share Image
And as experienced as I am, it still summons an act of bravery from me, and I like that. I like the… — Anneli Rufus Acts of bravery Copy Share Image
Loners live among the mob, so the mob mistakes us for its own, presuming and assuming. When the mob gets too close,… — Anneli Rufus Assuming Copy Share Image
“Just as soon as children develop awareness, it is essential to demonstrate to them by word and deed that they must submit,”… — Anneli Rufus Children Copy Share Image
The loner who looks fabulous is one of the most vulnerable loners of all. — Anneli Rufus Fabulous Copy Share Image
“We believe that whatever feels at first like joy is not. Or is, but will not last. Or should not last. We… — Anneli Rufus Joy Copy Share Image
Writing is done alone. People do not talk about the things they do alone. — Anneli Rufus Done Copy Share Image
“To this day, I have a very unhealthy relationship with food. I have an eating disorder; not in that I am anorexic… — Anneli Rufus Eating disorder Copy Share Image
We do not require company. In varying degrees, it bores us, drains us, makes our eyes glaze over. Overcomes us like a… — Anneli Rufus Bores Copy Share Image
Socializing is as exhausting as giving blood. People assume we loners are misanthropes, just sitting thinking, ‘Oh, people are such a bunch… — Anneli Rufus Assuming Copy Share Image
After what others would call a fun day out together, we feel as if we have been at the Red Cross, donating… — Anneli Rufus Blood Copy Share Image
We believe that whatever feels at first like joy is not. Or is, but will not last. Or should not last. We… — Anneli Rufus Believe Copy Share Image
Not that I was incapable of friendship. 'Don't be shy', the teachers coaxed. I was not shy, only extremely choosy. And Denise… — Anneli Rufus Ask me Copy Share Image
“written works do not produce fast reactions as pictures and sculptures and music do. it takes no effort to see or hear.… — Anneli Rufus Art Copy Share Image
“As businessman Hank Rearden philosophizes in Ayn Rand’s novel Atlas Shrugged: “People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim.… — Anneli Rufus Books Copy Share Image
“Some in the outside world might call our traumas trivial. Were you gang-raped? Sold into slavery? Imprisoned in a concentration camp? Did… — Anneli Rufus Concentration camp Copy Share Image
We care. We feel. We think. We do not always miss the absent one. We cannot always come when called. Being friends… — Anneli Rufus Absent Copy Share Image
“What did they call you that you weren’t? What did they never say about you that you were?” — Anneli Rufus Copy Share Image
Loners, if you catch them, are well worth the trouble. Not dulled by excess human contact, nor blasé or focused on your… — Anneli Rufus Awake Copy Share Image
“Pain is pain, however it begins. And however you got here, one thing is for sure: your self-loathing is not your fault.” — Anneli Rufus Pain Copy Share Image
