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Love Quote by Alain de Botton

“Although it often struggles to be heard in respectable circles, there is an alternative to the Christian-Romantic tenet that sex and love should always be inseparable. The libertine position denies any inherent or logical link between loving someone and needing to be unfailingly sexually loyal to…” quote by Alain de Botton
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““Although it often struggles to be heard in respectable circles, there is an alternative to the Christian-Romantic tenet that sex and love should always be inseparable. The libertine position denies any inherent or logical link between loving someone and needing to be unfailingly sexually loyal to them. It proposes that it can be entirely natural and even healthy for partners in a couple occasionally to have sex with strangers for whom they have little feeling but to whom they nonetheless feel strongly attracted. Sex doesn’t always have to be bound up with love. It can sometimes, this philosophy holds, be a purely physical, aerobic activity engaged in without substantive emotional meaning. It is, so its adherents conclude, just as absurd to suppose that one should only ever have sex with the person one loves as it would be to require that only those in committed couples ever be permitted to play table tennis or go jogging together. This remains, in the current age, the minority view by a very wide margin. Rabih””

Alain de Botton

About This Quote

Source Book: Essays in Love by Alain de Botton, 1995

The quote argues that sexual desire can be independent of romantic love, and that occasional non‑emotional sexual encounters can be natural and healthy.

In simple terms: Sex can be separate from love.

Key Takeaway

Recognize that love and sex need not be inseparable.

Themes

relationships sexuality libertarianism modernity

Mood

thoughtful analytical

Type

philosophical controversial

When to use this quote

  • open relationships
  • polyamory
  • personal exploration
  • sexual health discussions

Key Concepts

autonomy ethical non‑monogamy sexual freedom

Questions to Reflect On

  • How do you balance emotional intimacy with sexual autonomy?
  • What societal pressures shape your view on sex and love?
A Different Perspective

Such views may clash with cultural norms and cause relational conflict.

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