““Anger is a strong, protective emotion that can help us through a difficult situation. But it's also what's called a "presenting emotion," meaning it often shows itself first but underneath it are more vulnerable emotions, like hurt or sadness. Anger's second purpose is to usher us into the deep emotions underneath it and to give us clues as to how we can be healed... this is a matter of asking questions. The AHEN principle helps shape your questions... What am I feeling? What is the hurt beneath the anger? What is the expectation beneath the hurt? What is the need beneath the expectation?””
