“transformed into a control freak, trying to manage every single detail of your life together. No matter how hard you try, you can never do well enough for your spouse,” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“If you are married to a person who has (or might have) ADHD, you might feel ignored and lonely in your relationship. Your spouse never seems to follow up on what he agrees to do—so much so that you may… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“It is EXTREMELY STRESSFUL to feel like there is no companionship because I can’t rely on my husband to do what he said he… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“because people with ADHD don’t receive and process information in a hierarchical way, Maria’s suffering enters his mind at about the same level as… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“I hear so many excuses that I’ve pretty much become numb to his endless tales of woes. Communication is a major problem in our… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“He learns that getting things done doesn’t get him much credit, which demotivates him.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“a great deal of damage is caused by lack of knowledge about, and misinterpretation of, ADHD symptoms. Couples who learn about the specific patterns… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Applaud all forward progress. Research shows that encouragement, support, and recognition of success are far more effective than offering “help” when your goal is… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“You may feel desperately unhappy and lonely, and your partner isn’t even aware of it—even if you’ve tried to talk about it. You fight… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Most often, a non-ADHD spouse can make this transition easily, but the ADHD spouse ends up lost; and because the non-ADHD spouse assumes that… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“frustration with a lack of progress by your ADHD spouse more often leads to anger than empathy.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Parenting” an ADHD spouse is always destructive to your relationship because it demotivates and generates frustration and anger.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“for the non-ADHD spouse, the ADHD partner’s lack of participation in household chores becomes symbolic of all of the things that person doesn’t” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Dr. John Ratey, an expert on how the brain functions, suggests that ADHD is the result of dysregulation of the reward system (primarily dopamine)… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“insecurity had nothing to do with reality. He loved me deeply. He just didn’t realize that he wasn’t paying attention because he was distracted… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Medication is the most efficient way to jump-start treatment, but it does not effectively treat ADHD in marriages without the addition of behavioral changes.… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
