“frustration with a lack of progress by your ADHD spouse more often leads to anger than empathy.” — Melissa Orlov Adhd Copy Share Image
“Applaud all forward progress. Research shows that encouragement, support, and recognition of success are far more effective than offering “help” when your… — Melissa Orlov Applaud Copy Share Image
“transformed into a control freak, trying to manage every single detail of your life together. No matter how hard you try, you… — Melissa Orlov Control freak Copy Share Image
“adults with ADHD have at least one other condition, more than 50 percent have two or more, and more than one-third have… — Melissa Orlov Adhd Copy Share Image
“a great deal of damage is caused by lack of knowledge about, and misinterpretation of, ADHD symptoms. Couples who learn about the… — Melissa Orlov Adhd Copy Share Image
“Parenting” an ADHD spouse is always destructive to your relationship because it demotivates and generates frustration and anger.” — Melissa Orlov Adhd Copy Share Image
“for the non-ADHD spouse, the ADHD partner’s lack of participation in household chores becomes symbolic of all of the things that person… — Melissa Orlov Disorder Copy Share Image
“if the partners don’t get workload distribution issues under control, the anger and resentment that builds up can end the marriage.” — Melissa Orlov Anger Copy Share Image
“insecurity had nothing to do with reality. He loved me deeply. He just didn’t realize that he wasn’t paying attention because he… — Melissa Orlov Distracted Copy Share Image
“If you are married to a person who has (or might have) ADHD, you might feel ignored and lonely in your relationship.… — Melissa Orlov Adhd Copy Share Image
“You may feel desperately unhappy and lonely, and your partner isn’t even aware of it—even if you’ve tried to talk about it.… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Medication is the most efficient way to jump-start treatment, but it does not effectively treat ADHD in marriages without the addition of… — Melissa Orlov Marriage Copy Share Image
“It is EXTREMELY STRESSFUL to feel like there is no companionship because I can’t rely on my husband to do what he… — Melissa Orlov Companionship Copy Share Image
“I hear so many excuses that I’ve pretty much become numb to his endless tales of woes. Communication is a major problem… — Melissa Orlov Conversation Copy Share Image
“Most often, a non-ADHD spouse can make this transition easily, but the ADHD spouse ends up lost; and because the non-ADHD spouse… — Melissa Orlov Marriage Copy Share Image
“information comes at a person with ADHD. The ADHD brain has few filters on it; often, everything enters at once, and in… — Melissa Orlov Adhd Copy Share Image
“Dr. John Ratey, an expert on how the brain functions, suggests that ADHD is the result of dysregulation of the reward system… — Melissa Orlov Adhd Copy Share Image
“Dr. John Ratey, a leading expert in both ADHD and the brain, suggests that ADHD can be thought of as a reward-deficiency… — Melissa Orlov Adhd Copy Share Image
“because people with ADHD don’t receive and process information in a hierarchical way, Maria’s suffering enters his mind at about the same… — Melissa Orlov Adhd Copy Share Image
“He learns that getting things done doesn’t get him much credit, which demotivates him.” — Melissa Orlov Getting things done Copy Share Image
“Sometimes he does get things done. But his wife learns to be wary because he is so inconsistent. What she will remember… — Melissa Orlov Inconsistent Copy Share Image
“In short, I feel many times like the mom of three children instead of two. I have to keep his schedule as… — Melissa Orlov Children Copy Share Image
“without sufficient levels of these neuro -transmitters, an ADHD spouse’s attention is inconsistent and becomes dysregulated.” — Melissa Orlov Disorder Copy Share Image
“focus benefit of exercise lasts for a few hours, so thinking about when you exercise” — Melissa Orlov Fitness Copy Share Image
“who had started out so attentive could now ignore me and my needs so completely, or be so “consistently inconsistent” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“heart of most chore wars is at least one ADHD symptom. It might be distraction, inability to initiate, inability to complete tasks,… — Melissa Orlov War Copy Share Image
“Learn which responses produce positive outcomes. Anger, nagging, and withdrawal are responses that don’t move you forward. Look for different ways to… — Melissa Orlov Different ways Copy Share Image
“Consider hiring professional help. This is a very difficult dynamic to change. A professional ADHD coach or therapist can help you identify… — Melissa Orlov Adhd Copy Share Image
“days of “talks” about his “problem”? People with ADHD are all too aware that others think they are “broken,” and the resulting… — Melissa Orlov First place Copy Share Image
“Recognize, however, that some people with ADHD compensated for their ADHD in childhood but fall apart after they have too much on… — Melissa Orlov Children Copy Share Image
“If you are being parented, it means that ADHD symptoms are getting in the way of your relationship, whether you are aware… — Melissa Orlov Disorder Copy Share Image
“Consider weekly “learning conversations” (explained in detail in Step 4) to address issues that simply won’t go away. Make it a point… — Melissa Orlov Common ground Copy Share Image
“Perhaps worst of all, you feel intense stress from not knowing whether you can rely on him and feeling saddled with almost… — Melissa Orlov Family Copy Share Image
“two time zones for a person with ADHD: “now” and “not now”! A person with ADHD is very present focused. Often, something… — Melissa Orlov Adhd Copy Share Image
“Adults don’t have the same growth momentum that children do to help enable and amplify progress. In adults, change comes from hard… — Melissa Orlov Change Copy Share Image
