“Sometimes he does get things done. But his wife learns to be wary because he is so inconsistent. What she will remember is not his accomplishments, but his failures—” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“who had started out so attentive could now ignore me and my needs so completely, or be so “consistently inconsistent” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“It is EXTREMELY STRESSFUL to feel like there is no companionship because I can’t rely on my husband to do what he said he… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“because people with ADHD don’t receive and process information in a hierarchical way, Maria’s suffering enters his mind at about the same level as… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“I hear so many excuses that I’ve pretty much become numb to his endless tales of woes. Communication is a major problem in our… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“He learns that getting things done doesn’t get him much credit, which demotivates him.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“a great deal of damage is caused by lack of knowledge about, and misinterpretation of, ADHD symptoms. Couples who learn about the specific patterns… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Applaud all forward progress. Research shows that encouragement, support, and recognition of success are far more effective than offering “help” when your goal is… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“You may feel desperately unhappy and lonely, and your partner isn’t even aware of it—even if you’ve tried to talk about it. You fight… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Most often, a non-ADHD spouse can make this transition easily, but the ADHD spouse ends up lost; and because the non-ADHD spouse assumes that… — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“frustration with a lack of progress by your ADHD spouse more often leads to anger than empathy.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“Parenting” an ADHD spouse is always destructive to your relationship because it demotivates and generates frustration and anger.” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
“for the non-ADHD spouse, the ADHD partner’s lack of participation in household chores becomes symbolic of all of the things that person doesn’t” — Melissa Orlov Copy Share Image
