We find that even the parents who justify spanking to themselves are defensive and embarrassed about it…I suspect that deep inthe memory of every parent are the feelings that had attended his own childhood spankings, the feelings of humiliation, of… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
A method of child-rearing is not--or should not be--a whim, a fashion or a shibboleth. It should derive from an understanding of the developing… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
We must remember when we speak of the "negativism" of the toddler that this is also the child who is intoxicated with the discoveries of the second year, a joyful child who is firmly bound to his parents and his new-found world through ties of love. The so-called negativism is one of the aspects of this development, but under ordinary… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
Whenever reality reinforces a child's fantasied dangers, the child will have more difficulty in overcoming them...So, while parents may not regard a spanking as… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
Our survival as a human community may depend as much upon our nurture of love in infancy and childhood as upon the protection of… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
It no longer makes sense to speak of "feeding problems" or "sleep problems" or "negative behavior" is if they were distinct categories, but to… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
The experience of a sense of guilt for wrong-doing is necessary for the development of self-control. The guilt feelings will laterserve as a warning… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
It seems to me that we have to draw the line in sibling rivalry whenever rivalry goes out of bounds into destructive behavior of… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
There must be a solemn and terrible aloneness that comes over the child as he takes those first independent steps. All this is lost… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
We find that the child who does not yet have language at his command, the child under two and a half, will be able… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
Parents who want a fresh point of view on their furniture are advised to drop down on all fours and accompany the nine or… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
An older child, one who possesses a conscience, will be troubled with self-reproaches and feelings of shame for his naughtiness, even if he is… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
The child begins life as a pleasure-seeking animal; his infantile personality is organized around his own appetites and his own body. In the course… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
