As I age I am grateful to find that a silence has begun to gather in me, coexisting with my tempers and… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
Every great loss demands that we choose life again. We need to grieve in order to do this. The pain we have… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
Most people have come to prefer certain of lifes experiences and deny and reject others, unaware of the value of the hidden things that may come wrapped in plain and even ugly paper. In avoiding all pain and seeking comfort at all costs, we may be left without intimacy or compassion; in rejecting change and risk we often cheat ourselves… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share
Unexplained pain may sometimes direct our attention to something unacknowledged, something we are afraid to know or feel. Then it holds us to our integrity, claiming the attention we withhold. The thing which calls our attention may be a repressed experience or some unexpressed and important part of who we are. Whatever we have denied may stop us and dam… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share
One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted her to tell her that… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
Grieving allows us to heal, to remember with love rather than pain. It is a sorting process. One by one you let… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
How strange to think that great pain may be impermanent. Something in us all seems to want to carve it in granite,… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
For many years now I have listened to the stories of people with cancer and other life-threatening illnesses as their counselor. From… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
Chances are that any helpful two-year-old will break some eggs. We are often not very good at things when we are new. But there may be an important choice to make at such moments. Do we support and protect the innate wish to be of help to others in our children, or do we protect the eggs? Hard as it… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share
Big messages come in small packages. All it may take to restore someone's trust in life may be returning a lost earring or a… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
Many people do not know that they can strengthen or diminish the life around them. The way we live day to day simply may not reflect back to us our power to influence life or the web of relationships that connects us. Life responds to us anyway. We all have the power to affect others. We may affect those we… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share
A label is a mask life wears. We put labels on life all the time. 'Right,' 'wrong,' 'success,' 'failure,' . . . Labeling sets up an expectation of life that is often so compelling we can no longer see things as they really are. This expectation often gives us a false sense of familiarity toward something that is really new… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share
Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you - all of the expectations, all… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
It is said that the Christian mystic Theresa of Avila found difficulty at first in reconciling the vastness of the life of the spirit with the mundane tasks of her Carmelite convent: the washing of pots, the sweeping of floors, the folding of laundry. At some point of grace, the mundane became for her a sort of prayer, a way… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share
Goose bumps happen when your soul is close to you, breathing lightly on the back of your neck, and wakes you up. — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
We have become terribly vulnerable, not because we suffer but because we have separated ourselves from each other. A patient once told me that… — Rachel Naomi Remen Copy Share Image
