“Whoa! The idea that your partner is really a composite of your parents can be a bit upsetting at first. Though we love our parents, most of us got over (consciously) wanting to marry them when we turned five or… — Harville Hendrix Copy Share Image
Many divorced or widowed people do with their singleness what they should have done before they married for the first time: live alone, find… — Harville Hendrix Copy Share Image
“One minute you’re involved in your life as you know it, when suddenly you see the one. Your eyes meet (perhaps across a crowded room). Heart palpitations start. And the fairy tale of romance begins. Flowers, batting eyelashes, shared meals, laughter. Sunset walks and little love gifts to each other. You spend hours looking forward to your next time together.… — Harville Hendrix Copy Share
“When we were babies, we didn’t smile sweetly at our mothers to get them to take care of us. We didn’t pinpoint our discomfort by putting it into words. We simply opened our mouths and screamed. And it didn’t take us long to learn that, the louder we screamed, the quicker they came. The success of this tactic was turned… — Harville Hendrix Copy Share
“All this may seem like a terrible tangle. But since partnership is designed to resurface feelings from childhood, it means that most of the upset that gets triggered in us during our relationship is from our past. Yes! About 90 percent of the frustrations your partner has with you are really about their issues from childhood. That means only 10… — Harville Hendrix Copy Share
Conflict is the alchemical soup that transforms raw emotion and instinct into pure gold. — Harville Hendrix Copy Share Image
“Is this who I married?! Something is terribly wrong. Let us reassure you, nothing has gone wrong. Romantic Love is just the first stage of couplehood. It’s supposed to fade. Romantic Love is the powerful force that draws you to someone who has the positive and negative qualities of your parents or caregiver (this includes anyone responsible for your care… — Harville Hendrix Copy Share
The depth of our love can be measured by our efforts. We demonstrate our love when we take that extra step... — Harville Hendrix Copy Share Image
We always marry someone for the purpose of finishing our childhood. — Harville Hendrix Copy Share Image
Singleness would be recognized as a vital stage of the journey to maturation, a time to learn about who we are, to learn responsibility… — Harville Hendrix Copy Share Image
Above all else, we seek connection - with parts of ourselves that we have repressed, with other people, and with the larger universe. We… — Harville Hendrix Copy Share Image
“FROM ECSTASY TO AGONY Romantic Love sticks around long enough to bind two people together. Then it rides off into the sunset. And seemingly… — Harville Hendrix Copy Share Image
“In literature, as in love, we are astonished at what is chosen by others. —ANDRÉ MAUROIS” — Harville Hendrix Copy Share Image
