“If you want to pull someone out of a deep hole, do you jump in after her? Now that you are in the hole with her, you will not be able to help her out. When you observe that your… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“Gwen, a woman with BPD, talks about her inability to decipher the world around her. “On the day I was born, all the newborn… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“People with BPD spend a great deal of their emotional energy worrying about past pain or potential future problems. “If I do that, this… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“they may pontificate that the suicide attempt was merely a ploy to gain attention or to manipulate others. No matter what may have motivated… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“It is not necessary to get into a fight with someone because you feel angry; aggressive behavior does not have to be a knee-jerk… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“This painful mental illness is not fair, but saying it is not fair does not change anything. Thinking that you should not have to… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“If you want to pull someone out of a deep hole, do you jump in after her? Now that you are in the hole… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“Willingness is giving up trying to control behaviors or outcomes. By giving up control you can do what is needed in any situation. Willingness… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“It is very difficult to go through life when your core belief about yourself is that you are incompetent and do not count. When… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“Radical acceptance requires being open to fully experiencing your own life, as it is, without wishing it were not so and without pretending it… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“People with BPD tend to judge themselves and others in extreme ways. They will often use excessively positive terms, idealizing or glorifying, or excessively… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“Western culture does not encourage validating someone’s emotional responses, as emotional awareness of daily interactions is counterintuitive to how we normally react. In today’s… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“Think of your loved one as living in a different culture. Get to know his culture, learn to speak his language. Because you are… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“People with BPD judge themselves harshly all the time and find judgments lurking around the corner of every raised eyebrow, sneeze, yawn, or shoulder… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“Tips for Being Mindful • Focus on what works • Keep an eye on your goals and values • Give up opinions and judgments… — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
“the ability to cope effectively with daily problems and responses does not depend on willpower. Solving problems and tolerating distress requires skill power,” — Valerie Porr M.A Copy Share Image
