My wife and I just don't have the same feelings for each…
““My wife and I just don't have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can i do?" "The feeling isn't there anymore?" I asked. "That's right," he reaffirmed. "And we have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?" "love her," I replied. "I told you, the feeling just isn't there anymore." "Love her." "You don't understand. the feeling of love just isn't there." "Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her." "But how do you love when you don't love?" "My friend , love is a verb. Love - the feeling - is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?””
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
When romantic love fades, commitment can be sustained through intentional actions that nurture the relationship and support family stability.
In simple terms: Love can become a choice of actions, not just a feeling.
Key Takeaway
Act with love even when feelings wane.
Themes
relationships
commitment
family
empathy
service
Mood
concerned
hopeful
reflective
Type
advice
conversational
therapeutic
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- parenting
- personal growth
- conflict resolution
Key Concepts
Intentionality
behavioral love
psychological resilience
Questions to Reflect On
- Can you separate feeling from action?
- What actions will you take to support your family?
A Different Perspective
Feelings may return, but without effort the bond can weaken further.