If, then, you would deal wisely with your child, you must…
““If, then, you would deal wisely with your child, you must not leave him to the guidance of his own will. Think for him, judge for him, act for him, just as you would for one weak and blind; but for pity's sake, give him not up to his own wayward tastes and inclinations. It must not be his likings and wishes that are consulted. He knows not yet what is good for his mind and soul, any more than what is good for his body. You do not let him decide what he shall eat, and what he shall drink, and how he shall be clothed. Be consistent, and deal with his mind in like manner. Train him in the way that is scriptural and right, and not in the way that he fancies. If you cannot make up your mind to this first principle of Christian training, it is useless for you to read any further. Self-will is almost the first thing that appears in a child's mind; and it must be your first step to resist it.””
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
Children lack mature judgment; parents must guide them proactively rather than allowing unchecked self‑will.
In simple terms: Kids need direction, not freedom to choose everything.
Key Takeaway
Guide, don’t relinquish control.
Themes
parenting
authority
guidance
self‑will
spiritual training
Mood
protective
serious
Type
advice
instructional
When to use this quote
- raising children
- discipline
- religious instruction
- family decisions
Key Concepts
Christian doctrine
developmental psychology
moral education
Questions to Reflect On
- How can parents balance guidance with fostering autonomy?
- When is it appropriate to let a child make choices?
A Different Perspective
Over‑control can stifle independence and critical thinking.