People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change. — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us. — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today. — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate. — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years. — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
To err is human; to forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic. — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
When people change their irrational beliefs to undogmatic flexible preferences, they become less disturbed. — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
I teach people to be flexible, scientific and logical in their thinking and therefore to be less prone to brainwashing by the… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
The world consists mainly of love slobs who need other people's approval. Most people don't live their own lives very well. — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
Is self-esteem a sickness? That's according to the way you define it. In the usual way it is defined by people and… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
Beginning in the 1960s, many studies showed that people who hold what we call irrational beliefs are significantly more disturbed than when… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
We'd better work hard on getting rid of that must - Other people must do what I want them to do!" It's… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
When I started to get disillusioned with psychoanalysis I reread philosophy and was reminded of the constructivist notion that Epictetus had proposed… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
My rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) was one of the very few therapies that was originated partly or largely because I wanted… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
I thought foolishly that Freudian psychoanalysis was deeper and more intensive than other, more directive forms of therapy, so I was trained… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
People are terrified of other people or difficult projects because they tell themselves that they could fail or be rejected. Failure can… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
If people stopped looking on their emotions as ethereal, almost inhuman processes, and realistically viewed them as being largely composed of perceptions,… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
The Freudian tradition will never completely die because it has a few good points. For example, people have motives and thoughts of… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
People are terrified of other people or difficult projects because they tell themselves that they could fail or be rejected. Failure can… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency. If something is irrational, that means it won't work.… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them. — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
Unless, of course, you insist on identifying yourself with the people and things you love; and thereby seriously disturb yourself. — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
Attempts to help humans eliminate all self-ratings and views self-esteem as a self-defeating concept that encourages them to make conditional evaluations of… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
I don't recommend that people speak their minds to their bosses or to somebody who's directly over them. You need to know… — Albert Ellis Copy Share Image
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on… — Albert Ellis Copy Share
“REBT’s Insight No. 1 holds that you have both healthy and unhealthy emotions” — Albert Ellis Copy Share
So I'd better stop my whining and help myself cope better with even the worst Adversities. — Albert Ellis Copy Share
I'm one of the best-loved psychologists in the United States, but I'm also probably the most hated one. — Albert Ellis Copy Share
I thought foolishly that Freudian psychoanalysis was deeper and more intensive than other, more directive forms of therapy, so I was trained in it… — Albert Ellis Copy Share
I'm very happy. I like my work and I like the various aspects of it - going around the world, teaching the gospel according… — Albert Ellis Copy Share
Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse. — Albert Ellis Copy Share
“The concept of deservingness for one’s “sins” implies that certain acts are unquestionably under all conditions “sinful.” And this is impossible to prove.” — Albert Ellis Copy Share
I teach people to be flexible, scientific and logical in their thinking and therefore to be less prone to brainwashing by the therapist. — Albert Ellis Copy Share
For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency. If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually… — Albert Ellis Copy Share
Thinking rationally is often different from "positive thinking," in that it is a realistic assessment of the situation, with a view towards rectifying the… — Albert Ellis Copy Share
People are terrified of other people or difficult projects because they tell themselves that they could fail or be rejected. Failure can lead to… — Albert Ellis Copy Share
