“A psychological abuser will find a survivor’s emotional soft spots and exploit them for control and entertainment.” — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“It is not your job to understand. Sick people do sick things. You do not understand the mind of an abuser, because… — Hannah V. Sawyerr Copy Share Image
“the abuser's desire to abuse is not created by the child - it is there before the child appears” — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share Image
“I saw a post online where someone said, “An abuser doesn’t abuse every day.” That, my friend, is intermittent reinforcement in a… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“Sadly, that is exactly what happened. You were fully being yourself and the abuser was a chameleon. The abuser morphed to fit… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“The abuser is the only person who can deliver moments of peace, by being his better self for a while. Thus, the… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
The abuser knows where you work. Even if a woman goes underground at night, the abuser knows where to find her during… — Gordon Campbell Copy Share Image
It's incredibly dangerous to leave an abuser, because the final step in the domestic violence pattern is: kill her. — Leslie Morgan Steiner Copy Share Image
The number-one reason women say they returned to their abuser is financial insecurity. Often they have kids with them. They say half… — Patricia Arquette Copy Share Image
“None of us realized that each act of violence was training us to perpetuate the cycle when we were grown up and… — Lecrae Moore Copy Share Image
“Davies and Frawley believe that while the child may be a passive victim of the original sexual abuse, the child’s subsequent active… — Stephen A. Mitchell Copy Share Image
“THE ABUSER’S PROBLEM IS NOT THAT HE RESPONDS INAPPROPRIATELY TO CONFLICT. HIS ABUSIVENESS IS OPERATING PRIOR TO THE CONFLICT: IT USUALLY CREATES… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
If you want to own the power of God at your waist belt, you should have a background check. If you are… — Andrew Gillum Copy Share Image
An abuser can seem emotionally needy. You can get caught in a trap of catering to him, trying to fill a bottomless… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“In situations of captivity the perpetrator becomes the most powerful person in the life of the victim, and the psychology of the… — Judith Lewis Herman Copy Share Image
“Each one of us is more likely to believe someone when they point out our flaws and can connect what we know… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
Objectification is a critical reason why an abuser tends to get worse over time. As his conscience adapts to one level of… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Although the typical abusive man works to maintain a positive public image, it is true that some women have abusive partners who… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“He knows he used to be able to control you with charm, affection and promises. He also remembers how well intimidation or… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“A home where a woman is abused is a small-scale model of much larger oppressive systems that work in remarkably similar ways.… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“In projecting onto others their own moral sense, therapists sometimes make terrible errors. Child physical abusers are automatically labeled “impulsive," despite extensive… — Anna Salter Copy Share Image
“Learn to say to the abuser in a firm voice, "Stop it." Do not explain yourself, your needs, or what you mean.… — Caroline Abbott Copy Share Image
You are five times more likely to be killed by your abuser if your abuser can get their hands on a gun.… — Melissa Harris-Perry Copy Share Image
The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“until victims know deep in their souls that it is a choice to be an abuser, they will continue to entertain pity… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“The abuser sees it as a huge victory to turn an independent survivor into a needy, dependent person who can no longer… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“Not every man is an abuser and not every woman is a victim. So before assuming anything we must try to know… — GK Dutta Copy Share Image
Cocaine was different. It kept saying, "You haven't had enough." I became an abuser almost instantly. — George Carlin Copy Share Image
“An abuser can be thought of not as a man who is a "deviant," but rather as one who learned his society's… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“The ability of the abuser to harm someone close to him or her fits perfectly into the lack of relational attachment that… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“Have you killed a man, drowned a crocodile, hunted a wolf, or raped an abuser? Stop pretending you love someone.” — M.F. Moonzajer Copy Share Image
“These numbers show that among the participants of the study, “Mom” (or a mom figure) was the primary family abuser.” — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“The abuser wants the victim to be confounded. They do not require the victim to see undoubtedly nor see things for what… — Patricia Dsouza Copy Share Image
“What I am saying is that your hope of the person being better someday must come to an abrupt end. When that… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“He who can deliberately inflict torture upon an animal, in order to heighten the pleasure his palate is to receive in eating… — William Cobbett Copy Share Image
“Frequently, the emotional homicide is happening while other people go on clamoring about what a great guy or gal the abuser is… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
“Testifying against my abuser is not about a trial or about revenge This is a woman learning that to wear the burden… — Hannah V. Sawyerr Copy Share Image
“When an abuser gaslights, he or she sets up situations to make the target doubt their own memories and assessments of situations.… — Shannon Thomas Copy Share Image
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