We’re an equal-opportunity abuser here. (Syd)

It's incredibly dangerous to leave an abuser, because the final step in the domestic violence pattern is: kill her.

— Leslie Morgan Steiner

“Beating yourself up over every perceived mistake is the work of an internal abuser who must be restrained and reformed.”

— Bryant McGill

“When people conclude that anger causes abuse, they are confusing cause and effect. Ray was not abusive because he was angry; he was angry…

— Lundy Bancroft

“the abuser's desire to abuse is not created by the child - it is there before the child appears”

— Carolyn Ainscough

“A psychological abuser will find a survivor’s emotional soft spots and exploit them for control and entertainment.”

— Shannon Thomas

“I'm still not sure if I was a victim or not... and if I was, who was my abuser?”

— Eskay Teel

“The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers. Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows many ways…

— Lundy Bancroft

Cocaine was different. It kept saying, "You haven't had enough." I became an abuser almost instantly.

— George Carlin

Feminism exists so that no woman ever has to face her abuser in isolation, alone.

— Andrea Dworkin

“In situations of captivity the perpetrator becomes the most powerful person in the life of the victim, and the psychology of the victim is…

— Judith Lewis Herman

The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not…

— Gary Chapman

“He who can deliberately inflict torture upon an animal, in order to heighten the pleasure his palate is to receive in eating it, is…

— William Cobbett

“The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and more to…

— Lundy Bancroft

“When an abuser gaslights, he or she sets up situations to make the target doubt their own memories and assessments of situations. This is…

— Shannon Thomas

“He knows he used to be able to control you with charm, affection and promises. He also remembers how well intimidation or aggression worked…

— Lundy Bancroft