Acquaintance Quote by W. Somerset Maugham
““In the first place it's not true that people improve as you know them better: they don't. That's why one should only have acquaintances and never make friends. An acquaintance shows you only the best of himself, he's considerate and polite, he conceals his defects behind a mask of social convention; but we grow so intimate with him that he throws the mask aside, get to know him so well that he doesn't trouble any longer to pretend; then you'll discover a being of such meanness, of such trivial nature, of such weakness, of such corruption, that you'd be aghast if you didn't realize that that was his nature and it was just as stupid to condemn him as to condemn the wolf because he ravens or the cobra because he strikes.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: Of Human Bondage, W. Somerset Maugham, 1915
People reveal their true nature over time; superficial kindness hides deeper flaws.
In simple terms: Friends show true character.
Key Takeaway
Be cautious in trusting too quickly.
Themes
trust
relationships
human nature
Mood
thoughtful
cautious
Type
advice
observational
When to use this quote
- new friendships
- team building
- conflict resolution
- personal relationships
Key Concepts
existentialism
psychology
Questions to Reflect On
- What qualities do you value most in a friend?
- How do you balance openness with self‑protection?
A Different Perspective
Close bonds can also bring support and growth; not all intimacy leads to disillusionment.
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