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“71. Rare Things -- A son-in-law who's praised by his wife's father. Likewise, a wife who's loved by her mother-in-law. A pair of silver tweezers that can actually pull out hairs properly. A retainer who doesn't speak ill of his master. A person who is without a single quirk. Someone who's superior…” quote by Sei Shōnagon
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““71. Rare Things -- A son-in-law who's praised by his wife's father. Likewise, a wife who's loved by her mother-in-law. A pair of silver tweezers that can actually pull out hairs properly. A retainer who doesn't speak ill of his master. A person who is without a single quirk. Someone who's superior in both appearance and character, and who's remained utterly blameless throughout his long dealings with the world. You never find an instance of two people living together who continue to be overawed by each other's excellence and always treat each other with scrupulous care and respect, so such a relationship is obviously a great rarity. Copying out a tale or a volume of poems without smearing any ink on the book you're copying from. If you're copying it from some beautiful bound book, you try to take immense care, but somehow you always manage to get ink on it. Two women, let alone a man and a woman, who vow themselves to each other forever, and actually manage to remain on good terms to the end.””

Sei Shōnagon

About This Quote

Source Book: The Pillow Book by Sei Shōnagon, c. 1000

Describes rare, harmonious relationships and perfect conduct that are almost impossible to find.

In simple terms: Rare perfect relationships are extremely uncommon.

Key Takeaway

Cherish and strive for mutual respect.

Themes

relationships respect rarity excellence

Mood

reflective appreciative

Type

philosophical inspirational

When to use this quote

  • marriage
  • friendship
  • collaboration
  • teamwork

Key Concepts

Confucian harmony ideal conduct mutual admiration

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can we foster deeper respect in our relationships?
  • What small actions build lasting harmony?
A Different Perspective

Ideal behavior may be unrealistic in everyday life.

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