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Blood relation Quote by Sarah Dessen

“What is family? They were the people who claimed you. In good, in bad, in parts or in whole, they were the ones who showed up, who stayed in there, regardless. It wasn't just about blood relations or shared chromosomes, but something wider, bigger. Cora was right- we had many families over time…” quote by Sarah Dessen
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““What is family? They were the people who claimed you. In good, in bad, in parts or in whole, they were the ones who showed up, who stayed in there, regardless. It wasn't just about blood relations or shared chromosomes, but something wider, bigger. Cora was right- we had many families over time. Our family of origin, the family we created, as well as the groups you moved through while all of this was happening: friends, lovers, sometimes even strangers. None of them were perfect, and we couldn't expect them to be. You couldn't make any one person your world. The trick was to take what each could give you and build a world from it. So my true family was not just my mom, lost or found; my dad, gone from the start; and Cora, the only one who had really been there all along. It was Jamie, who took me in without question and gave me a future I once couldn't even imagine; Oliva, who did question, but also gave me answers; Harriet, who, like me, believed she needed no one and discovered otherwise. And then there was Nate. Nate, who was a friend to me before I even knew what a friend was. Who picked me up, literally, over and over again, and never asked for anything in return except for my word and my understanding. I'd given him one but not the other, because at the time I thought I couldn't, and then proved myself right by doing exactly as my mother had, hurting to prevent from being hurt myself. Needing was so easy: it came naturally, like breathing. Being needed by someone else, though, that was the hard part. But as with giving help and accepting it, we had to do both to be made complete- like links overlapping to form a chain, or a lock finding the right key. ~Ruby (pgs 400-401)””

Sarah Dessen

About This Quote

Source Novel: The Truth About Forever by Sarah Dessen, 2009

Family is defined by the people who consistently support and show up for you, not just by blood ties.

In simple terms: Family means those who are there for you, no matter what.

Key Takeaway

Cultivate and appreciate chosen families.

Themes

relationships support chosen family growth

Mood

reflective hopeful grateful

Type

narrative inspirational

When to use this quote

  • recovering from loss
  • building new relationships
  • navigating friendships
  • seeking mentorship

Key Concepts

attachment theory social networks resilience

Questions to Reflect On

  • Who are the people you rely on beyond blood?
  • How can you strengthen those connections?
A Different Perspective

Family bonds can be fragile and require effort to maintain.

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