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Brutally honest Quote by R.K. Lilley

“He gave me a smoldering look. “You know why. You keep trying to belittle what we have, but you need to understand that it’s as new to me as it is to you. I have a past. A wildly sordid past. I can’t change it. I would if I could. You are going to run into a lot of my ex-lovers. That’s an…” quote by R.K. Lilley
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““He gave me a smoldering look.  “You know why.  You keep trying to belittle what we have, but you need to understand that it’s as new to me as it is to you.  I have a past.  A wildly sordid past.  I can’t change it.  I would if I could.  You are going to run into a lot of my ex-lovers.  That’s an unfortunate fact.  It will be a lot less painful for you if you can just get it into your head that none of them were anything but a fuck to me.  And fucking was nothing to me before I met you.  Sex was a bodily function to me before I met you.  That’s why I call this making love.  It means something to me.”   “I’ve never even had a girlfriend before you, never even considered the idea.  I’m sure it sounds callous, but no woman has ever been anything to me beyond a fuck, a sub, or a friend, occasionally all three, though never all of them for long.  They all knew the score.  I was brutally honest with every single one of them, without exception.  You are the one that I want, the one that I need.  So getting upset about my past, or feeling jealous of women I’ve been with, is unwarranted.””

R.K. Lilley

About This Quote

Source Film: Unknown (dialogue from a contemporary drama)

A character explains that past sexual experiences are merely physical, not emotional, and that love now carries deeper meaning for him.

In simple terms: He says his past was only sex, now love matters.

Key Takeaway

Recognize that love can transform prior casual encounters into meaningful connection.

Themes

intimacy trust past growth relationships

Mood

confessional reflective

Type

dialogue dramatic

When to use this quote

  • dating
  • relationship counseling
  • personal reflection
  • communication

Key Concepts

emotional honesty sexual history relationship dynamics

Questions to Reflect On

  • How does redefining past sexual experiences affect current intimacy?
  • Can love truly erase previous emotional baggage?
A Different Perspective

His view may minimize the impact of past partners on current feelings, ignoring possible lingering emotions.

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