Relationship Quote by Philippa Perry
““Examining our assumptions and checking them out with our partner ensures that we have a relationship with the person instead of a fantasy of them, or avoid falling into the sort of "I—I" relationship I spoke of earlier.””
About This Quote
Source Book: How to Be an Adult in Relationships, Philippa Perry, 2019
Checking assumptions with a partner creates a real relationship rather than an imagined one, avoiding self‑centered dynamics.
In simple terms: Validate assumptions together to build genuine connection.
Key Takeaway
Communicate openly to avoid fantasy.
Themes
relationships
communication
selfawareness
Mood
reflective
introspective
Type
advice
psychology
When to use this quote
- dating
- marriage
- friendships
Key Concepts
attachment theory
mindfulness
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you test your assumptions about others?
- What fears arise when you see a partner as a fantasy?
A Different Perspective
Assumptions may be hard to confront; honesty can be uncomfortable.
