Femininity Quote by Marlen Haushofer
““The womanliness of my forties had fallen from me, along with my curls, my little double chin and my rounded hips. At the same time I lost the awareness of being a woman. My body, more skillful than myself, had adapted itself and limited the burdens of my femininity to a minimum. I could simply forget I was a woman. Sometimes I was a child in search of strawberries, or a young man sawing wood, or, when sitting on the bench holding Pearl in my scrawny lap watching the setting sun, I was a very old, sexless creature. Today the peculiar charm that emanated from me back then has left me entirely. I am still scrawny, but muscular, and my face is crisscrossed with tiny wrinkles. I'm not ugly, but neither am I attractive, more like a tree than a person, a rough brown branch that needs its whole strength to survive.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Wall, by Marlen Haushofer, 1963
A woman describes how aging and physical changes stripped her of traditional feminine identity, leaving her feeling detached and more like a resilient, non‑gendered entity.
In simple terms: Aging made her feel less like a woman and more like a strong, gender‑neutral being.
Key Takeaway
Accept bodily changes and find strength beyond gender expectations.
Themes
identity
aging
body image
gender
resilience
Mood
reflective
melancholic
empowering
Type
personal essay
autobiographical
philosophical
When to use this quote
- midlife crisis
- self‑reflection
- body acceptance
- creative writing
Key Concepts
existentialism
self‑perception
physicality
Questions to Reflect On
- How does society shape our sense of gender identity?
- What aspects of self can we cultivate beyond physical appearance?
A Different Perspective
The description may romanticize loss of femininity, overlooking societal pressures that value women’s appearance.
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