““Adopting a stance toward any external experience as partial rather than total allows the feeling to more easily be accepted. Thus, recognizing my shame as part of me allows me to tolerate it far better than if I am all shame. Allowing the hating of a parent comes easier when there also is a loving part. Getting to know each part, like a critical part, or a blocked or blocking part, is facilitated by seeing it as an aspect of myself that I can get to know and can have a relationship with rather than being totally identified with it. Seeing aspects of experience as part of oneself becomes a crucial aspect of change in EFT: It implies possibilities of alternatives because my fear or my sense of worthlessness or unlovableness is only a part of me. VIEW””
