Courting Quote by Lady Murasaki Shikibu
““Let us be sure that the lady of our choice possesses certain tangible qualities that we admire; and if in other ways she falls short of our ideal, we must be patient and call to mind those qualities that first induced us to begin our courting.””
About This Quote
Seek a partner’s virtues; if other traits fall short, recall why you were drawn to them.
In simple terms: Focus on admired qualities, not flaws.
Key Takeaway
Practice gratitude for a partner’s strengths.
Themes
love
courtship
patience
appreciation
relationship
Mood
reflective
romantic
thoughtful
Type
courting:1
inspiration:0
love:1
wisdom:0
qualities admire:1
begin courting:0
qualities induced:0
lady choice:0
When to use this quote
- dating advice
- relationship counseling
- personal reflection
- literary analysis
Key Concepts
virtues
idealization
emotional intelligence
commitment
romantic tradition
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you balance admiration with realistic expectations?
- What signs indicate deeper incompatibility?
A Different Perspective
Idealizing may ignore genuine incompatibilities.
