Composure Quote by Kay Redfield Jamison
““Composure and self-restraint were not only desirable characteristics in a woman, they were essental. As my mother put it later, it was bad enough having to worry yourself sick every time your husband went up in an airplane; now, she was being told, she was also supposed to feel responsible if his plane crashed. Anger and discontent, lest they kill, were to be kept to oneself. The military, even more so than the rest of society, clearly put a premium on well-behaved, genteel, and even-tempered women.””
About This Quote
Source Book: An Unquiet Mind by Kay Redfield Jamison, 1995
Societal expectations pressure women, especially in the military, to suppress emotions and maintain composure, linking personal anxiety to responsibility for others' safety.
In simple terms: Women are expected to stay calm and not show anger, even when worried about loved ones.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and challenge unfair emotional expectations.
Themes
gender roles
military culture
emotional suppression
Mood
anxious
reflective
Type
sociological
psychological
When to use this quote
- marriage
- military families
- mental health
- personal boundaries
Key Concepts
social pressure
psychological burden
gender expectations
Questions to Reflect On
- How do these expectations affect women's wellbeing?
- What can be done to support emotional honesty?
A Different Perspective
Such expectations can harm mental health and limit authentic expression.
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