Hard time Quote by Kate Fagan
““of being okay, and having everything together, and almost, like, say, even though I’m stressed, I still have time to have a perfect social life, perfect grades, to join all these clubs, and I’m super successful. But in reality people are stressed, and do feel alone, and it’s important to address those things. Peter: Picture a duck, and below the surface they are scrambling for their lives, but above the water everything appears peaceful—not a care in the world. That’s Penn Face. Kathryn: I think Penn Face also comes from the expectations we have for ourselves, and that people around us have for us at an Ivy League university—you’re supposed to be having the best four years of your life. We get this messaging everywhere. And having a hard time is not part of that messaging, which perpetuates the belief that “I’m not okay” must mean that something is wrong with you instead of something a lot of people might feel. Devanshi: Ivy League schools compile all the top students in one place and””
About This Quote
Source Podcast: Discussing Ivy League pressure, 2023
Students project a flawless exterior while struggling internally, perpetuating stigma around stress and loneliness.
In simple terms: Hidden struggles behind perfect appearances.
Key Takeaway
Acknowledge and discuss mental health.
Themes
mental health
social pressure
authenticity
Mood
empathetic
serious
Type
reflective
advice
When to use this quote
- college life
- social media
- academic expectations
Key Concepts
image vs. reality
stress coping
Questions to Reflect On
- How can we normalize vulnerability?
- What support systems help?
A Different Perspective
Stigma may prevent seeking help.
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