Agendas Quote by John Frederick Demartini
“I don't care if you're a parent giving to a child, a worker to a company, or a romantic to a lover, this behavior eventually leads to resentment. There's always a hidden agenda of What's in it for me? It's often suppressed, and this is why sacrifice is ultimately unwise and incomplete. Does this mean that there's no such thing as altruism, philanthropy, or generosity? No, it just means that anytime these exist, so do egocentricity, misanthropy, and greed. There's always a balancing force, even if it's sometimes hidden or unconscious.”
About This Quote
Source Book: The Breakthrough Experience by John Frederick Demartini, 2009
Self‑interest underlies all actions, even seemingly altruistic ones, creating hidden resentment when motives are not transparent.
In simple terms: Even giving can hide selfish motives, leading to resentment.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and clarify motives to avoid hidden resentment.
Themes
psychology
relationships
ethics
motivation
balance
Mood
reflective
cautious
Type
philosophical
advice
When to use this quote
- personal relationships
- workplace
- family dynamics
- charitable giving
Key Concepts
self‑interest
altruism
resentment
ego
hidden motives
Questions to Reflect On
- What hidden motives might you be overlooking?
- How can you ensure generosity feels genuine?
A Different Perspective
Resentment can arise despite conscious generosity if motives remain unexamined.
