Hierarchy Quote by Franklin Veaux
““The assumption lurking beneath a desire for hierarchy is that we can't really trust our partners to act well without a set of rules. That without a formal ranking to remind our partners that we come first, we will lose our status, lose the things we most value about our relationship, lose our sense of security, or even lose the relationship entirely. But as we've said before, if your partner can't be trusted to work with you on your needs when asked, she probably can't be trusted to follow rules.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy, 1997
The quote argues that hierarchy stems from distrust; if a partner cannot meet needs voluntarily, rules cannot guarantee loyalty.
In simple terms: Hierarchy reflects distrust; trust replaces rules.
Key Takeaway
Cultivate mutual trust instead of imposing hierarchy.
Themes
trust
relationships
hierarchy
autonomy
security
Mood
concerned
reflective
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- partner negotiation
- team projects
- family decision making
- community leadership
Key Concepts
social contract
power dynamics
mutual dependence
Questions to Reflect On
- Can you rely on your partner's goodwill?
- What safeguards replace hierarchy?
A Different Perspective
If partners are unwilling to cooperate, rules may still be needed to protect interests.
